Monthly Archives: August 2010

Aug 30

Happy Birthday to Engaged Marriage!

By Dustin | General

Happy Birthday!I almost had a heart attack last week.

On Friday morning, a reader emailed me to say Engaged Marriage “looked funny” and no posts were showing up.  When I clicked over, it was clear the site had been hacked or the host server had been corrupted in some way.  Literally, almost one year to the day since I launched this site, I had a moment of trepidation thinking that all of the content shared between us could be gone forever.

Thank God for back-ups!  Within a few hours, I was able to restore everything back to normal with only minor interruptions (sorry to those that received duplicate blog posts in their email inbox on Friday…this was the culprit).  However, seeing the life of this site flash before my eyes made me realize just how much it has become a valued part of my life, and it reminded me that we just passed the one-year mark!

Looking Back to the Start

It’s crazy to think that just over a year ago, I had literally never even read a blog in my entire life.  While on vacation last August, I felt a call to share our pro-marriage message to an audience larger than the participants at the marriage preparation courses we present at a few times each year.  I figured I should look online and see how I could get started.

Well, I can tell you I had no idea what was in store for me!  Within a few weeks, I immersed myself in learning the ins and outs of blogging and WordPress site creation and launched this site with my first post on August 21, 2009.  I’m pretty proud to look back at that first post and see that the mission and message of Engaged Marriage has remained pretty consistent from the very start…and our sense of humor was apparent as well.

Thank You for This Community!

This site is successful because of you.  It’s really that simple.

I am absolutely blown away by the progress that we’ve made together in just a year.  Here are some numbers to give you an idea of the growth and impact of Engaged Marriage:

Looking Forward

Again, I am so grateful for your support and the incredible sense of community that we’ve built here over the past year.  The plan is to keep on keepin’ on with the consistent and valuable content here at Engaged Marriage.

As you may know, I’m working on my first premium product, which will be a 28-day course for busy couples who want to improve the sex, romance, communication and finances in their marriage in about 15 minutes per day.  I had hoped to have it ready for this one-year anniversary, but I’ve been a bit a busy with our new baby and the impending launch of an exciting new project called Fit Marriage.

I promise that 28 Days to an Engaged Marriage is coming (pretty) soon!  If you’d like to be the first to know when it’s ready and receive a nice discount as well, please take a moment to go sign up for the Early Bird Notification List.

I’d really love to hear from you and let you shape our future together at Engaged Marriage!  In the comments below, please share the following:

  • Your favorite aspect of Engaged Marriage
  • One thing you’d like to see more of (or less of) at Engaged Marriage going forward

Thanks again and God bless each of you and your families!

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Aug 26

Christian Family Planning Network: Supporting Natural Forms of Family Planning

By Dustin | Sex & Family Planning

Natural Family Planning

I’m really excited today to introduce the Engaged Marriage community to a wonderful online resource that is helping to educate and support the practice of natural forms of family planning.  As you may know, Bethany and I are quite passionate about Natural Family Planning and all the goodness it’s brought to our marriage.

Well, Stephanie Berman is the creator of an awesome resource called Christian Family Planning Network.  At her site, you can become part of a community to learn and practice either NFP or the Fertility Awareness Method (FAM).  FAM is essentially similar to NFP in that it involves the tracking of a woman’s fertility cycle.  Very basically, the difference is that us NFP users abstain from sex during the fertile times, while FAM users (often Protestant Christians who have no moral objections to contraceptives) use barrier contraceptives during those times and continue to have sex.

I think you’ll learn a lot about this important topic by reading Stephanie’s guest post today, and I encourage you to go check out the Christian Family Planning Network.  Thanks Stephanie for accepting my invitation to share your good work with our community!

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Thank you Dustin, for allowing me this opportunity to introduce your readers to the Christian Family Planning Network (CFPN)! I know that a few of the readers here have already benefited from it, and I trust that many more will in the years to come.

First, a little bit of the history of the CFPN and why it came to be. When my husband and I got married in 2007, he suggested using “natural family planning”. (His words, not necessarily meaning CCL’s NFP). I was hesitant at first, as I have irregular cycles, and I was unsure we’d be able to discern when I had ovulated.

However, I agreed that working with my body, rather than against it, was a good way to go. So, we started researching. Through another website, I was introduced to the Fertility Awareness Method (FAM). Because my husband and I do not have moral objections to barriers, we felt that if we were both okay with using them, that Fertility Awareness was our answer.

As we began our journey with FAM, I realized that there was not a lot of support for Protestant women who didn’t want to use hormonal birth control. After months of praying about it, I joined with a few online friends who were also interested in FAM and NFP, and in January 2009 we started a website where Christians of any denomination can come and learn about all their options.

What is the Christian Family Planning Network All About?

The Christian Family Planning Network’s purpose is to educate engaged and married Christians about their options for birth control beyond artificial or hormonal contraceptives.

We hope to overturn the common misconception that all natural birth control methods are the Rhythm Method of decades past (note from Dustin: this misconception is one of the biggest causes of stress and anger in my life.  It’s SO wrong! :) ). In supporting this purpose, we offer a message board and an online course in charting your fertility cycle.

The message board is a vibrant community where women from all walks of life, and all theological perspectives, can come together and support each other in their decision to not use hormonal birth control. Some of our members join the community while still on the Pill, or the Shot, or the Ring. In situations like this, members of the community who have been in their shoes will come alongside and support them, answer their questions, and encourage them that they are doing a good thing!

Many of the women on our “Avoiding Pregnancy” forum have been using natural methods their entire marriage. Some of our long-term members have avoided pregnancy for up to four years, before deciding to try to conceive their first child. Now some of those members have given birth to their first child and are avoiding again with FAM or NFP postpartum!

In addition to supporting women who are avoiding pregnancy, we also have forums and buddy groups for women who are trying to conceive, are dealing with infertility, are pregnant, or parenting. We encourage all of our new members to join a buddy group and to plug into the community where they need support.

Is This an NFP or FAM Site?

Because we are a diverse community, both NFP and the Fertility Awareness Method (FAM) are represented. The leadership team actively encourages each group to learn from and encourage the other in their convictions, and we celebrate the common ground that we share in wanting to encourage women to use natural birth control methods, without dwelling on our differences.

Here is what one of Dustin’s (Catholic) readers had to say when asked how she feels about the community:

As a Catholic and NFP instructor joining the Christian Family Planning Network …I wasn’t sure if my belief in abstinence during fertile times would be accepted by the community or if I would be challenged and judged. However, since the day I first logged on, I have encountered nothing but acceptance and support by the diverse variety of women on the CFPN.

Time and time again I have been impressed with the respectful dialog that occurs while discussing topics with varying viewpoints and varying beliefs. I have found an incredible amount of support in our journey to use NFP during some challenging postpartum times, while TTA and now as we begin to TTC.

The online course is a great place to start if you’re looking for information on natural methods of pregnancy avoidance. Because our ministry caters to NFP users and FAM users, it does not discourage the use of barriers, nor does it dwell on their use.

Abstinence is presented as a great option for pregnancy avoidance and the study questions in that unit help the students to think of ways to show love and affection beyond intercourse during the fertile phase. We do provide statistics of barrier failure rates, but the choice of barriers or abstinence is left up to each couple to make based on their own beliefs and conscience.

In closing, I’ll leave you with a quote from another Catholic member.

Being able to share with other Christians about your journey through life with this fertility choice is extremely positive. I know the other forum I found back when I was first charting and had lots of questions was very secular and made me uncomfortable on more than one occasion. This is a much more friendly place to air your questions and get answers from Christian perspectives.

If you’ve been looking for a place of support during your journey with natural birth control, please come take a look at our site! We’d love to have you join us.

A final note from Dustin: While Bethany and I practice NFP, I share Stephanie’s enthusiasm for finding common ground with supporters of all natural forms of family planning.  I encourage you to check out CFPN and support their ministry in any way that you feel called, including membership or a simple donation.

Aug 23

Blow Up My Marriage !?!

By Dustin | Book & Product Reviews

Blow Up My MarriageI get emails from readers all the time and, in general, I really enjoy it.  I honestly believe that the Engaged Marriage community is one of the best around, and you always have kind words, constructive feedback and excellent ideas and guest posts to share.

However, from time-to-time, I get an email from a reader who needs more help than I can offer.  They may have experienced deeply broken trust, a serious breakdown in communication or what seems like a loss of love.

This apparent loss of love could be one-sided or a mutual feeling, but it usually comes in the form of “I still love you but I don’t think I’m in love with you anymore” or perhaps “I just don’t feel attracted to you in a sexual way anymore” or something similar.

When faced with these types of emails, I’m usually full of mixed emotions.  I take them quite personally and often discuss the situation presented with Bethany (my wife).  I can share my personal thoughts and opinions, but I am always careful to state up-front that I am not a professional counselor and issues running this deep in a marriage are beyond my capabilities to handle responsibly.

So what can I do for a reader in need?  Up until this point, I would offer my prayers and tell them to seek professional counseling in their local area.  I think this is good advice and in-person counseling is an excellent option, but couples will oftentimes throw up excuses when faced with this option.  Counseling requires scheduled time away from the house, it can be quite expensive and the one-on-one in-person setting can be intimidating (and it somehow feels like you’re “admitting” there’s a problem in your relationship).

Well, today I’m very excited to let you know that I have an excellent resource to recommend to the Engaged Marriage community when a need for professional help or simply a fresh perspective presents itself in their marriage.

Introducing “Blow Up My Marriage”

You may be familiar with Dr. Corey Allan and his site Simple Marriage.  I’m a monthly columnist there because I believe in the site’s message and approach to marriage.  Corey is a professional marriage and family therapist as well as a Ph.D. and all-around great guy.

When Corey approached me to share his ideas and early successes with a new course known as Blow Up My Marriage, I was both excited and looking for more information.  Here’s what you’ll learn in this class:

  • How to create the best marriage from your strengths, not by looking at what’s wrong.
  • How to see that it’s the relationship that’s the issue, not you or your spouse.
  • Why you never want to lean on your spouse.
  • How to create a great life and have your marriage be the icing on the cake.
  • And, how to transform your sex life.

Well, after hearing about these benefits, I was intrigued and that’s when Corey shared the details of the course, which you can read more about over at his site.  I explained to Corey about the problems I have with readers in tough situations that I can’t address, and he explained that this course would be a great fit for most of those couples.  Based on his site, here’s the intended audience for Blow Up My Marriage:

  • are constantly fighting
  • have experienced a betrayal via an emotional affair
  • have a spouse caught up in pornography usage
  • are in a monotonous marriage
  • consider themselves a Nice Guy or Nice Girl
  • are gridlocked on several issues in the relationship

If this sounds like something you or a friend or loved one could benefit from, from I highly recommend you check out this course.

If you are having any of the issues discussed above in your own marriage, I’m still happy to receive your emails.  However, if you tell me you’re not ready for in-person counseling, I will likely tell you to lose the excuses and then suggest that you check out the Blow Up My Marriage course to see if it is a good fit for you.

Aug 19

Argue Fairly With Your Spouse: The Rules of Engagement

By Dustin | Communication

Argue with your spouse the right way

Everyone, at times, has disagreements.

How boring would life be if everyone agreed all of the time? However, if you handle those disagreements the wrong way, it could mean disaster.

This is particularly true when you are arguing with your spouse.

You spend most non-working moments with this one person, this wonderful, loving, infuriating person. Your emotions will naturally run high while discussing the things you care most about with the person you care most about. Arguments are not only natural, but inevitable.

How do you have an argument with someone you love without lasting resentment?

As strange as it may sound, you have to argue fairly.

The Rules of Engagement

There are a few principles to remember during an argument with your husband or wife:

  • When your partner is talking, your job is to listen with all of your energy. You are not interrupting. You are not planning your rebuttal while waiting for your turn to talk.

You are listening, nothing else. If you don’t listen, you can’t understand. If you don’t understand, you can’t find a resolution.

  • Remember that your partner cares. If she didn’t care, she wouldn’t feel so strongly about the argument. This isn’t a war, just an argument. She still wants to spend the rest of her life with you.

Keeping this in mind will change the entire tone of the argument into a positive interaction. You will still disagree, but you will be looking for a solution together, instead of finding a “win” at any cost.

  • Search for the best intent. Remember #2? There is an incredibly good chance that, if there are two ways to interpret something your partner has said – a good way and a bad way – your partner probably meant the good way. Even if you are wrong, it is far better to err on the side of resolution than the side of antagonism.
  • When your partner has finished speaking, it’s still not your turn to argue. Your job now is to repeat your understanding of the issue, without worrying about problem-solving. Before you can refute the argument – or even establish your disagreement – you have to know that you understand her position and she has to know that you do.

Without understanding, there can be no path to resolution that doesn’t cause resentment. If you have too much resentment, you won’t have a marriage.

After all of this, it will finally be your turn to make your point. Hopefully, your partner will be following the same rules so you can solve your problems together, without learning to hate each other.

Arguments in your marriage aren’t – or shouldn’t be – intended to draw blood.

Fights happen. However, if your goal is to win at any cost, you will both lose, possibly everything.

Choose to argue fairly with your spouse and put your marriage ahead of your desire to “win.”

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Aug 16

Improve Your Marriage By Helping Others

By Dustin | Time Management

Want to improve your marriage?

As I share in this brief (and quite personal) video, Bethany and I were recently reminded of how powerful it can be to help others with their relationships.  When we spend a little of our precious time teaching, or simply talking to, others about the keys to having a great marriage, we’re often reminded of areas that need attention in our own lives.

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If you can’t see the video, please click here: Improve Your Marriage By Helping Others

I’d love to hear about your experiences with this topic.  When have you reached out to help others and found that you end up benefiting the most, especially in your marriage?

Aug 12

The Little Things: Happy Marriages Happen in Moments

By Dustin | Romance

Happy Marriage

Editor’s Note: I love this guest post from Amber! I hope you get as many smiles as I did from reading it. Share your own favorite Little Things in the comments.

When Engaged Marriage invited me to share one of my wedded bliss moments as a guest blogger, I began racking my brain for the perfect story to share.

I wanted something romantic, something that would make you all ooh and ahh, something that would help us all remember why marriage is so incredibly worth it. So, I started thinking of all the out-of-the-ordinary, big moments of romance in my 2 ½ year marriage.

I thought of the designer purse my husband surprised me with when he returned from his last business trip, and how I could write about all the time he’d spent in the shop consulting the sales associates about what pattern would be just right.

I thought about this past January, when I stumbled out of bed hours after my husband had left for work one day to find a deliciously scented bubble bath tied with a bow waiting on the counter and a note saying, “Today is National Bubble Bath Day. Relax and enjoy!” (Who knew such a perfect holiday even existed?!).

I thought about the time he surprised me with a trip to Italy for our honeymoon because he knew it was my life-long dream to go there, and the romantic dates he’s occasionally planned that have made me so glad he’s mine.

Don’t Miss The Little Things

But with all these big, romantic gestures to choose from, do you know what I kept coming back to as my reason for wedded bliss? The little day-to-day things, that neither of us stop to think twice about most of the time.

The way he opens my car door whenever I get in the car. The way he takes the edge of the sidewalk that’s by the street on our walks. The way he laughs right along with me when I’m sometimes seized with a very irreverent giggling fit during our nightly prayers.

The way he steps in to do the dishes when I’ve done the cooking. The way he irritably catches and takes out a spider for me, even though he’d much rather smash it. The way he sits on the sideline, and cheers me on when it’s my turn on the basketball court, and the way he smiles at me when he manages to avoid yelling at the refs when it’s his turn.

The way he lets me rant and rave about all the stresses in my life. The way he’ll miss a college football game to go clothes shopping with me. The way he’s willing to handle the list, and the cart at the grocery store.

The hours we’ve spent making homemade pizza. The nights of promising we’ll cream each other in cards. The mornings of snuggling up with a good book. The times spent brushing our teeth together, when he teases me about the foamy mess I make – even after he takes a few seconds to put my toothpaste on for me and compliments me on my beautiful smile.

These “little” things are the things that make marriage worth it to me. They are the things that get me through the tough days that we all have.

So while I hope that the occasional big sweeps of romance continue (I mean, who in their right mind would turn down a dream trip, or refuse a bouquet of flowers?), what I really hope is that I continue to recognize the little blessings of every hour that come because I’m spending a life with someone I love.

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Amber Johnson is owner of Something New Custom Wedding Books. Her new blog, Flaunt It, features real-life couples sharing their day-to-day moments of wedded bliss, and inspiring other married couples through their flaunting. She would love to feature you! To submit your stories, or just follow along, please visit Flaunt It, at www.snweddingbooks.blogspot.com

Aug 11

Introducing the Fit Marriage Test Group Members

By Dustin | Individual Fulfillment

Fitness and MarriageWow.

When Tony and I decided to put the word out about Fit Marriage and solicit interest in being part of a Test Group to try out our first couple-friendly program, we were enthusiastic.  We hoped to receive applications from 10 individuals/couples.

Instead, we received 58 excellent applications!

We were truly blown away by the response, and we are so encouraged to push forward with our new project to help each and every person out there who wants to make fitness an integral part of their marriage and family life.  Thank you for your votes of confidence in us and our program.

Meet the Fit Marriage Test Group

Unfortunately, we could not include all 58 applicants in the Test Group.  Our intention is to work alongside the Test Group members and interact with you on a regular basis.  That just wouldn’t be possible (in a high-quality way) with such a large number of participants.  So, we had to select those that would be joining us at this time.

We originally planned on (hoped for) 10 participants.  However, we just couldn’t narrow it down that far, so we settled on a total of 16 members.  Most of these folks represent a couple, so more than 30 individuals will be joining us on this initial 12-week journey to improved fitness.

We will be contacting all of the applicants via email today to inform them of their status.  However, several people forgot to include an email address and others may miss the message, so I wanted to post here to spread the word to everyone.

Here are the Test Group members and their age.  As you can see, we have a diverse group of enthusiastic participants!

Kent, 46

Shawna, 40

Marina, 28

Carol, 34

Eric, 27

Andy, 31

Eric, 38

Amy, 27

Tiffany, 32

Andrew, 24

John, 37

Peter, 39

Melissa, 26

Jamie, 26

Nina, 26

Pablo, 55

Thank You!

Thank you once again to all of you who have shown your support for Fit Marriage via your applications, your sign-ups to the newsletter, your comments and your sharing in social media.

We are excited to share our new website in the next few weeks as well as launch our podcast where we’ll be discussing a wide range of issues related to fitness, nutrition and happy marriages.  We have several experts already lined up to join us for interviews, and we’ll be looking for energetic couples to feature as well.

If you missed it on the announcement post, please take a second to enter your email address below to join the Fit Marriage newsletter.  From this point forward, I won’t be mentioning FM too much here at Engaged Marriage, and this newsletter is the best way for you to find out about the progress of the project and also receive valuable content once we launch the site and podcast.

Please sign-up now and tell your friends! 🙂

If you can’t see the form on your RSS reader or email, please click here and visit the original post.

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Aug 06

Ask the Community: Should Your Spouse “Friend” an Old Fling on Facebook?

By Dustin | Ask the Community

I receive a lot of emails from readers, and I rarely share them here on the blog because they are either too personal or too specific.  Well, I recently received a message that I thought would be best addressed as a community, and the sender encouraged me to share it with you to get your feedback.

Here’s the message:

I had a situation happen to me today that I thought might make a good discussion topic for your site – proper social networking etiquette / behavior for married people.

Today, I had an old boyfriend send me a friend request on Facebook. I decided to ignore the request. I haven’t even thought of him in 13 years and there was a good reason I broke it off then.

Is this really someone I want to share the details of my life with anymore? No. Would I be cool with my husband “friending” an old flame? Honestly, I would probably be a little weird about it. Some people are best left in the past.

Here’s where you can help.  In the comments below, I’d love to get your opinions on this situation.

How would you feel if you were the one receiving the friend request?  Would you feel the need to ask your spouse before you accepted or ignored it?

Would you care if your spouse “friended” an ex-boyfriend or ex-wife?

Do you think Facebook and other social media relationships are totally harmless, or does it actually mean something when you accept “friend” status with someone?

By the way, if you have a question that you’d like to “Ask the Community” here at Engaged Marriage, please send me a message and let me know!

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Aug 02

Want a Fit Marriage? Here’s Your Chance!

By Dustin | Individual Fulfillment

Fit MarriageI am very excited today to announce the beginnings of a new project that has the potential to change many lives and impact many marriages in a positive way.

There will be many more details to follow about the overall project, known as Fit Marriage, but I want to give you a sneak peek today and then announce a special opportunity that you have to be part of this mission from the start!

What’s Fit Marriage?

Fit. Together. For Life.

Fit Marriage is a new business, website, podcast, product line and brand that I’m developing alongside Tony DiLorenzo of ONE Extraordinary Marriage.  While we’re both very passionate about both marriage enhancement and fitness, we each offer unique gifts that we are excited to bring together in a way that should offer a great deal of help to other busy couples and help them achieve improved  physical fitness and overall wellness.

Tony is a super-fit guy and a successful extreme endurance athlete (particularly in cycling, at least lately) who has a wealth of knowledge and encouragement to share.  On the other hand, my physical exploits have been much more average as I’ve struggled to find a fitness program and approach that fits my crazy life and keeps me motivated to reach my goals.

I’ve always had a passion for fitness, and I’ve spent much of my life learning about exercise and nutrition and trying out different approaches with varying degrees of success.  Tony flat out knows his stuff, and he’s lived a fit lifestyle his entire adult life.  As we started to combine “notes” and opinions about fitness (in the context of some marriage discussions), we realized that we had something incredibly valuable to share with the busy married couples of the world.

And so, Fit Marriage was born.

The First “FM” Program is Ready…We Think

Since FitMarriage.com won’t be live for a few more weeks, you may be wondering why we’re sharing this news today before our site is complete and prior to releasing the first episode of our podcast.  The simple answer is that the power is in the program!

Tony and I have spent the past several months working hard to develop the initial, core fitness program that we want to build Fit Marriage around.  Our primary goals were a program that got killer results while fitting within the demands of a super-busy marriage and family life.

Well, we’ve done it!  Here are the highlights of this yet-unnamed fitness program:

  • EVERY workout is 30 minutes or less!
  • EVERY workout can be done at home without the need to drive to, tolerate or pay for a gym!
  • It provides 12 full weeks of workouts that are broken into three distinct phases to keep things interesting and effective.
  • It combines a great variety of Core, Strength, Power Yoga and Cardio workouts.
  • It includes a total of TEN full workouts (25-30 mins) plus two bonus 8-minute “No Excuses” workouts.
  • The workouts are video-based so they’re easy to learn and follow along.
  • It provides simple nutritional guidelines that you can actually follow in your daily life.
  • And perhaps most importantly, this program was designed to be fun and effective for both Men and Women, and it is an awesome way for a busy couple to workout TOGETHER!

We are both in the middle of the program now and seeing awesome results.  Needless to say, we are excited.  However, there’s one thing that’s been missing so far…

We Need YOUR Input!

The main purpose of today’s post is to invite YOU to try out our new fitness program…for free!

While we think this program is great, the real test comes when other real-life, busy married folks use it and enjoy improved physical fitness, mental wellness and happy marriages.  And we hope you’ll join us to be one of the first to experience it for yourself.

How You’ll Benefit by Joining the Test Group

  • First chance to try out the new program and become part of the FM community
  • FREE access to the full program in its draft form (that’s 12 weeks of great workouts)
  • FREE copy of the final product (likely a premium multi-DVD system) – ONLY if you complete the full program!
  • Exclusive opportunity to interact with Tony and I directly as you move through the program
  • Frequent interaction with us to keep you motivated and moving forward
  • Satisfaction of knowing you helped develop a system that’s sure to have a positive impact on the lives and marriages of many

How We Benefit by Hosting You

  • Receive honest feedback from good people to help improve the program before it gets finalized
  • Get the chance to interact with others while they experience the program
  • Gain success stories to use in conjunction with launching the final version of the product later this year
  • Help others get fit and have better marriages, which is what it’s all about!

Ready to Join Us? Here are the Details

If you are ready to make a positive change in your personal fitness, and possibly grow closer to your spouse in the process, we encourage you to apply to become part of our Test Group!

Please note that we are going to be selective about who we invite to participate. In other words, we invite you to apply below, but please understand that not everyone will make it into the group.

We want to have the time and energy to really interact with each member of our Test Group team on a regular basis.  And we only want people who will remain committed to the program, finish and share their honest feedback and results.

Requirements to Be Considered for the Test Group

  • You agree to participate at your own risk.  You should always check with your doctor before starting any exercise program, and we take no responsibility or liability for your health.
  • Be ready to start on 8/16 and workout according to the plan for 12 weeks (please, quitters need not apply)
  • Be able and willing to exercise five days per week for 30 minutes or less each day
  • Preferably, currently be a beginner or intermediate fitness level
  • Bring a positive attitude and an awesome work ethic
  • Offer open and honest feedback throughout the program
  • Interact via email with Tony and I to share your progress and questions
  • Take a Fitness Test before, during and after the program to document your improved fitness
  • Take photographs of yourself in a bathing suit before, during and after the program to document your improved appearance
  • Be willing to share your testimonials, Fitness Test data and photographs on Fit Marriage and as part of promotional materials for the final product
  • If you enjoy the program, tell your friends and family!

If you are up to the challenge, just click the link below and fill out the requested information.  Please note that the information you share here is confidential and will only be visible to Tony and I.  Please be honest with your answers. 🙂

CLICK HERE TO APPLY TO BE PART OF THE TEST GROUP!

QUICK UPDATE: Wow, the response to our Test Group offer has been outstanding, and we are going to have some tough decisions to make when choosing who will take part.  Go ahead and sign up using the link above to make our choices even tougher.

Also, if you have any interest in Fit Marriage, I’d highly encourage you to enter your email address below so we can keep you up-to-date on this awesome new project.  Thanks everyone! 🙂

Please note that we still stop accepting applications at 11:59 pm CST on Monday, August 9th.  We will select and notify the successful Test Group members on August 11th.  All materials will be provided so you can do your initial Fitness Test and get started on August 16th!

Also, please take a moment to share a link to this post with all of your friends and social networks (Twitter Re-Tweet and Facebook Share buttons are provided below).  This is a chance for you to possibly help them improve their own fitness and married life!

Want to Know More About Fit Marriage?

Whether you want to join the Test Group or not, we’re anxious to have you join us as part of the Fit Marriage community.  Please enter your email address below, and you’ll be among the first to know when Fit Marriage launches and when other awesome opportunities come up to join us in improving your fitness and your marriage!

If you can’t see the form on your RSS reader or email, please click here and visit the original post.

Thanks to everyone for your continued support!  If you have questions or suggestions for the Fit Marriage team, please share them in the comments below.

P.S. – Don’t forget to enter your email address above, apply to be part of the Test Group and share this opportunity with your friends!  We’re excited to have your support!

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